“Yes” or “If”


There are moments in life in which I feel like I do own the answer – what I want to say is to think that I know the direction to take, the decision to pursue, the right move to make. In that precise moment, I am really confident of my decision, and everything seems to be crystal clear in my mind. But what often happens is that time proves that I was wrong. After that, disappointment and frustration become my mates while I keep asking myself why I originally felt so sure, and why I overlooked that little particular piece in the picture that would have led me to be more prudent?

So my “yes” to a certain decision is the answer which I suppose comes from a really strong feeling that I clearly perceive from the inside. Unluckily, reality often proves the opposite and then I realise that, what I thought was intuition, definitely was not. It was more an impulsive decision actually deriving from the mind. Basically, what I thought must be the right way turns out to be the exact opposite.

To prevent myself from constantly making bad choices, I realised it was much better to start considering the ‘if’ option. Instead of one ‘yes’, it seems to be much better to contemplate more ‘ifs’. A series of conscious ‘ifs’ leads to a more logical ‘yes’. So by evaluating the situation when considering more options, the consequence is the result of wiser decisions. The problem is always the mind, which shows us the reality not for what it is but for what we wish it to be.

The “ifs” bring us to an improvement that removes the risk. The “ifs” transmute the many evaluations of the possible options in a “yes” which comes from a place that is between the mind and the heart. The heart does not relate well to the aggressive mind but it easily enters the smart mind where the “ifs” find a free way to create a reliable “yes”.

Many people say “yes” to certain choices, and are finding out later that, in reality, those were all “nos”. These are all the cases which should lead us to ask ourselves: Where does this choice finally lead me? What will I face if I undertake this action? Hurried decisions are always impulsive. This is indeed a condition that I must accept but the conscience never accepts conditions so the action turns out to be an imposition. Since I cannot stand an imposition, my decision cannot lead me to do something good. Because I am not listening to my intuition, I am in trouble now.

The “ifs” provide a line of reasoning with regard to the future. It is so important to link the thinking process to a logical vision. It is wise to use a logical approach to things because logic builds up the foundation of thoughts – it is their origin. Being logical does not mean being an erudite or a philosopher; in fact, philosophy depends on logic and not vice versa. Therefore, what is logical becomes naturally philosophical. When being logical, I am forced to respect my needs and to find a proper way to fulfill them.

Sadly, the way we all live today has taken away a part of the logical mind process. The mind is filled with information which leads us to overthink all the time. So many problems are constantly hitting our general level of attention so that it dangerously decreases and moves us from our real needs. Our truth – our system of beliefs – chooses each personal law of life, a reality sustained by logic.

We build our reality through personal experiences. The more we are able to be aware of the building process, by making clever decisions, the more we will become able to understand the logic of things. While we are building a fine mind, we define the vision of the reality which consequently is more concrete and not contaminated by the subconscious mind.

The outside is destroying the inside and, therefore, our logic and our reality. It is important to take some time off for ourselves, to think about the important decisions we should make to achieve a brighter life. If we do not listen to logic though, our actions lead to a “yes” which is more a “no”. Finding some space to produce valuable thoughts is the most worthwhile gift that we can ever give to ourselves. If we do not observe things, our space is restricted, so there is no vision and no reality; but if we listen to the present moment, we undoubtedly create a productive time and space. So do not waste this important present time because, within a breath, it becomes the past and when it is gone, it will never come back.


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